When we talk about the Virtue of Positivity, you might think it is simply a way of looking at a circumstance and finding the good in it. However, harnessing the power of positivity will do much more than making your teen feel better.
Why positivity is critical
We know too well, the extreme highs and lows of teenage years, as they navigate surging hormones and heightened emotions, all while trying to prepare and consider their next steps after education. Positive thinking is a powerful coping tool that helps foster skills to deal with these things, as well as resilience, decision-making, problem-solving, and managing life’s inevitable disappointments.
How negativity can influence your teen
Negativity is natural, but when that feeling outweighs positive, your teen will have a tendency to compare themselves to others or even blame their problems on others. A negative attitude will also affect their communication skills, adaptability, and confidence as they feel a sense of helplessness.
Even though positivity doesn’t necessarily come naturally to all of us, it is still a skill that can be nurtured from a young age.
5 ways to nurture Positivity
1. The Glass if Half Full
Even as teenagers, they have a tendency to imitate their parents through observation, therefore you play a big role in how your child will perceive and respond to situations. Modelling a positive attitude is the most effective way to nurture this skill. For example, if you burn dinner turn it into a fun family takeaway night, or if you break a mirror, turn it into an interior design shopping trip.
2. Slow and purposeful speech
Negativity can arise when in anxious or angry situations. Research has shown that by slightly slowing down your speech when you speak to your child in these situations, you can influence feelings of calm, as well as deepening your connection, allowing your teen to understand you better.
3. Create goals
If your teen lacks self-confidence and self-esteem, they may compare themselves to others in a negative light. Encourage your teen to create their own long-term and short-term goals. If they can visualise their success and work towards it, they will develop great self-confidence that will lead them down a very successful path.
4. Encourage strengths
Allow your teen to explore and discover their own strengths and passions, to develop self-awareness. Challenge your artistic teen to try new techniques or a new musical instrument. Cheer your athletic teen on and encourage them to join a team. Alternatively, if your teen is a great negotiator, perhaps the debate team is a good outlet. Self-awareness developed in a positive environment that is unique to their talents allows your teen to discover their own voice, opinions, and feelings.
5. Compassion and positivity goes hand-in-hand
Finally, kindness, helpfulness, sympathy, and empathy are all skills that will help your teen develop more positive relationships with others and themselves. Focus on nurturing these skills too.
Linked to confidence, communication, persistence, and compassion, positivity is one of the most precious skills we can nurture.
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